Independent Domestic Abuse Service (IDAS) is the largest specialist domestic abuse service in Yorkshire. They are working quickly to adapt to the rapidly changing circumstances.
IDAS support anyone affected by domestic abuse, providing lifesaving support including refuge accommodation, outreach services and a helpline. IDAS are determined to keep their refuges and helplines running in these immensely difficult times,
For many people who are afraid of their partner and may be faced with being isolated with them for long periods of time, this is an additional risk factor.
If you are facing isolation with an abusive person, IDAS offer some safety planning advice on their website. In addition, you could consider the following:
✅ Get a spare phone and store emergency contact numbers in it and hide it in a safe place or with a trusted person
✅ Familiarise yourself with the Silent Solution for calling the Police in an emergency when you can not speak
✅ Keep your ID documents, emergency funds, bank cards and children’s birth certificates to hand
✅ Speak to your neighbours and ask them to ring the police if they hear or see anything
✅ Set up safe words or signs with friends so they know to call for help on your behalf
✅ Plan to check in with people regularly so that they can raise the alarm if they don’t hear from you
✅ Plan to escape to the garden or to a room that you can exit from easily if abusive behaviour escalates
✅ Avoid rooms where there could be weapons if the abusive behaviour escalates
Familiarise yourself with The Silent Solution system. This is a system for victims of domestic abuse who might be afraid of further danger and escalation of harm if they are overheard when calling 999 in an emergency.
When somebody calls 999, an operator will ask which emergency service is required. If you are not able to ask for help, your call will be forwarded to a police system and you will hear an automated message.
If 55 is pressed by the caller, the system will detect this. The operator will then transfer the call to the relevant police force as an emergency. Click here to find out more.
Women’s Aid is a national organisation that also provides support. The Women’s Aid website has links to Live Chat, information, support services and details of helplines can be found below and on the Women’s Aid website.
✅ The Survivors’ Forum is an online resource for survivors of domestic abuse. The Survivors’ forum can be accessed 24/7. This is a place where survivors can support each other and share their experiences.
✅ Women’s Aid Live Chat is currently available Monday to Friday 10- 12pm. This could be a safer way to access some support; particularly if an abuser might also be in the property so it would be unsafe to make a telephone call.
✅ Women’s Aid Email Service is still operating and can also provide support.
✅ Detailed information about national and local support services Women’s Aid offer can be found here on their website.
✅ For details of helplines, go to Gov.uk/report-domestic-abuse
✅ Women’s Aid always want to encourage a survivor to be as safe as possible when accessing any form of support. It will be really important to familiarise yourself with information and guidance that will help to keep you as safe as possible when using online platforms.
✅ Looking after children can be particularly difficult challenging when isolating. Family lives have support available including online forums
✅ If you were accessing counselling that has now been suspended; some counselling services can continue to provide helpline support. For example, Supportline provides a confidential telephone helpline and email counselling service. Particularly to those at risk of abuse or are isolated.
IDAS provides the following advice for friends, neighbours or family members concerned about someone they know:
Right now we are recruiting foster carers across the county – in particular those who can offer homes to older children and sibling groups
During this difficult time we are still dealing with enquiries and processing applications, though we can’t see you face to face at the moment, and all our regular events and drop ins are on hold due to Covid-19 precautions.
So, wherever possible we will carry out your initial visit by phone and skype – one of our enquiry workers can talk you through the process, so please do get in touch.
To find out more go to www.northyorks.gov.uk/fostering – or contact us using facebook messenger – and together we can make a difference!
We know this lockdown has been so tough for many children and parents, but you’ve made it…..well done! Homeschooling has been challenging for many, but we’re also aware that even some of those children who have been in school have struggled, their environment has been changed and many of their friends missing. Whatever your circumstances have been for the last few months, Mumbler want to help acknowledge the success for everyone. Why not print off a celebratory certificate and present to your Mini Mumbler this weekend?
Want it all typed?
No problem, we’ll do it for you. Simply comment on our post with the names of the children you’d like it creating for, as well as who you’d like us to sign it from, and we’ll send it back to you with a special note for your Mini Mumbler. Alternatively, you can email us your details to email@example.com
Well done parents and carers!
Don’t think we’d forgotten you in all this! For all those days where you’ve been exhausted, that you’ve had to work harder than ever before, where you’ve questioned your parenting abilities or wondered why on earth you can’t do basic maths!! We’ve all been there with you and let this be an enormous well done to you too!
The NSPCC Pregnancy in Mind service is for pregnant women who are experiencing anxiety and/or depression. We know that pregnancy can be an anxious time for many women and that the current circumstances are likely to be causing additional stress and uncertainty.
We usually run a group work programme but as we are currently unable to offer this we are offering a remote one-to-one service.
The service will offer approximately 4 x weekly sessions. The focus is around reducing anxiety/improving mood and providing techniques and strategies to manage this. Once you’ve contacted us a worker will be allocated and they will be in touch to have a chat with you about your needs so they can make sure the sessions offer you the support you need.
Contact will be by phone initially but then if you prefer we can use alternative media to support video contact.
Please get in touch to find out how we can offer you support.
If a worker isn’t immediately available then someone
will get back in touch as soon as possible.
Please leave your name, contact number and email address.
If, like us, you need to order your Mini Mumblers some new shoes, but have nowhere to get them measured, are unable to visit shops or would prefer not to , Start Rite are here to help.
Simply Download and print their Paper Measuring Gauge and once you know the size, you can order shoes online.
Don’t worry if you don’t have a printer, they have kindly offered to post you one. Simply fill in their request form here
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Here at STAG HQ, this has to be our all-time favourite book. We read it to the Mini Mumbler’s (who absolutely adore it), we use it to explain life lessons to them and have also bought it for every friend who has had a baby, as it’s the perfect gift. Whilst we love the book, we didn’t really know anything about the author until recently. This super clip helps explain the long journey Charlie went on to become a successful author and illustrator and the incredible impact his book has had on so many.
Spend 5 minutes and WATCH HIS STORY
⚠️ Advice for parents during coronavirus and what to do if your child becomes unwell ⚠️
Whilst coronavirus is infectious to children it is rarely serious. If your child is unwell it is likely to be a non-coronavirus illness, rather than the coronavirus itself.
Please read the ‘Red, Amber and Green’ guidance from the Royal College of Paediatrics and Child Health.
Indicates that you need urgent help and if your child has any of the listed features you should go to the nearest A&E department or phone 999
Indicates you need to contact a doctor or nurse today if your child has any of the listed features. Please ring your GP surgery or call NHS 111 – dial 111
Indicates you should continue providing your child’s care at home if none of the listed features are present. If you are still concerned about your child, call NHS 111 – dial 111.
Whilst it is extremely important to follow Government advice to stay at home during this period, it can be confusing to know what to do when your child is unwell or injured. Remember that NHS 111, GPs and hospitals are still providing the same safe care that they have always done.
For information in full visit: https://bit.ly/Adviceforparents
Yoga, mindfulness and relaxation designed specially for kids aged 3+, used in schools and homes all over the world.
Jamie delivers her sessions in a fun and interactive way, with themes to suit all ages, including Frozen, Harry Potter, Trolls and many more.
How do you explain what’s going on in the world right now, without causing fear, confusion and anxiety?
You can download this book for free here
These are uncertain times and that can be stressful. Stress whilst good in smaller doses (it can be motivating and encourage us to plan and prepare) can be detrimental if it takes over. You can take simple steps to ensure your wellbeing is taken care of!
There’s some great information out there from reputable sources about managing your mental health and wellbeing specifically during the Coronavirus outbreak. :
If you have to isolate – communicate in other ways. Facetime/Skype your friends and family and keep that communication going. We are all in this together and no one should have to feel alone. Physically isolate to keep safe but don’t socially isolate. With all the modern technology we have these days we can be more social able than ever whilst sat in our own homes. Phone those friends you never get around to calling, find out what they have been up to these last few months. Make sure you are a member of the Selby, Tadcaster and Goole (STAG) Mumbler chat group on Facebook. Support and advice for parenting issues is always available from the local network of Mumblers and it’s invaluable at times like this to not feel alone.
Regular exercise can reduce the risk of developing mental ill health. FACT. Your usual exercise options might not be possible right now if isolating but there’s still plenty of exercise opportunity. Cleaning / gardening, both productive tasks and great exercise! Fitness DVD’s / youtube exercise videos can all be done in the comfort of your living room. Bicep curls with all those stockpiled tins. If you have a garden this offer more opportunity and depending on space could allow for a power walk or mini game of football with the kids.
Staying on top of the news is important with guidance changing rapidly day to day. HOWEVER, this can become ever consuming. With access to news feeds 24/7 via our tv’s and phones it can be hard to escape. Limiting your exposure can be helpful to achieve a balance. This allows you to focus on the here and now, day to day life, your family and all the many good/happy things that are still going on in the world (and will continue to go on). Tuning in to a daily round up or having 10 minutes to read the summary updates on the news apps will ensure you are up to date with what you should / shouldn’t be doing and the next steps to take.
Routine is important. Having a planned structure can help people feel more motivated to achieve tasks if they have planned to do them beforehand. Writing it down helps, it makes you feel more committed to stick to the routine. Build in meal times (meal ideas HERE), exercise, playtime (things to do at home with the kids HERE), relax time, jobs/chores, home education with the kids if appropriate (online educational resources HERE) etc
It sounds odd to say such a thing, what positives?! but they can ALWAYS be found! This strange scerio presents us with all sorts of opportunities, if feeling well but self isolation is required:
Deep clean the house (as a mum of 2 this NEVER happens and i can’t wait to have the time to blitz!)
Obviously, some of us will feel unwell and these tasks may not be appropriate but a good book or some films/boxset will hopefully still be enjoyable and manageable.
Having a breathing technique in your toolkit can be handy to pull out if you were to ever need it. The NHS explains a nice simple technique on their website. Practice it at home at times when you are not in need and then you will have it up your sleeve to pull out if you ever felt anxiety creeping in.
A concept that can be very beneficial for mental health. It takes practice to develop the skill to be mindful. There’s a lot of information online if you wished to dive deeper!
HERE is the NHS guidance.
“It can be easy to rush through life without stopping to notice much. Paying more attention to the present moment – to your own thoughts and feelings, and to the world around you – can improve your mental wellbeing.”
In summary mindfulness is about noticing what is actually happening right now. Fully immersing yourself in the moment and noticing all aspects of it. We have busy lives. We walk through the park, checking our email on our phone, thinking about what we need from the shops and what to cook the little ones for tea. Our minds never stop, but they need to! They need a break! Next time you walk through the park, immerse yourself in the present. Notice the sights, sounds and smells. The birds chirping, the leaves rustling, the squirrel running up the tree. Feel the breeze on your cheeks and smell the fresh air. Children are much better at being mindful. Younger children won’t be worrying about the mortgage or the library book that needs returning. They will be focused on the big puddle in front of them and the fantastic splashing sound it will make when they jump into it!
If you’re new to mindfulness, take small steps. Try a few minutes at a time. Immerse your in an experience, anything! Brushing your teeth, having a shower, playing with the children and absorb every sensory opportunity from that experience. Your mental health will thank you for it and you will create special, longer lasting memories along the way.
Ask your family or friends for help and support. See the NHS WEBSITE for a list of mental health helplines, help is always there if you need it.
Taken from @thehappynewspaper. A great escape from the doom and gloom news, happy stories and smiles:
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