Attention all Mums who love to sing! 

We are the Abbey Belles – a female barbershop chorus based in Selby. We love singing together in harmony but we also like to have fun! We are a welcoming bunch and no audition is necessary.

The first 3 sessions are free and we meet on Tuesday evenings. We have a variety of ladies of all ages and from all walks of life!

It is a fact that singing is good for you! Improving your mental and physical health. One of our tenors (the highest part) joined when her second baby was just 6 weeks old.

“Singing in the chorus helped me through postnatal depression and then through the COVID lockdowns when we did Zoom choir. I have always left the session happier than I arrived. Carving out that little bit of regular time for me is one of the best things I have ever done.”

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In order to help survivors of domestic abuse, we are sharing this important information from IDAS and Women’s Aid.

How to reach out for help

Independent Domestic Abuse Service (IDAS) is the largest specialist domestic abuse service in Yorkshire.

IDAS support anyone affected by domestic abuse, providing lifesaving support including refuge accommodation, outreach services and a helpline.

For many people who are afraid of their partner and may be faced with being isolated with them for long periods of time, this is an additional risk factor.

 IDAS offer some safety planning advice on their website. In addition, you could consider the following:

✅ Get a spare phone and store emergency contact numbers in it and hide it in a safe place or with a trusted person

✅ Familiarise yourself with the Silent Solution for calling the Police in an emergency when you can not speak

✅ Keep your ID documents, emergency funds, bank cards and children’s birth certificates to hand

✅ Speak to your neighbours and ask them to ring the police if they hear or see anything

✅ Set up safe words or signs with friends so they know to call for help on your behalf

✅ Plan to check in with people regularly so that they can raise the alarm if they don’t hear from you

✅ Plan to escape to the garden or to a room that you can exit from easily if abusive behaviour escalates

✅ Avoid rooms where there could be weapons if the abusive behaviour escalates


The Silent Solution system

Familiarise yourself with The Silent Solution system. This is a system for victims of domestic abuse who might be afraid of further danger and escalation of harm if they are overheard when calling 999 in an emergency.

When somebody calls 999, an operator will ask which emergency service is required. If you are not able to ask for help, your call will be forwarded to a police system and you will hear an automated message.

If 55 is pressed by the caller, the system will detect this. The operator will then transfer the call to the relevant police force as an emergency. Click here to find out more.


Women’s Aid

Women’s Aid is a national organisation that also provides support. The Women’s Aid website has links to Live Chat, information, support services and details of helplines can be found below and on the Women’s Aid website.

The Survivors’ Forum is an online resource for survivors of domestic abuse. The Survivors’ forum can be accessed 24/7. This is a place where survivors can support each other and share their experiences.

Women’s Aid Live Chat is currently available Monday to Friday 10- 12pm. This could be a safer way to access some support; particularly if an abuser might also be in the property so it would be unsafe to make a telephone call.

Women’s Aid Email Service can also provide support.

✅ Detailed information about national and local support services Women’s Aid offer can be found here on their website.

✅ For details of helplines, go to Gov.uk/report-domestic-abuse

✅ Women’s Aid always want to encourage a survivor to be as safe as possible when accessing any form of support. It will be really important to familiarise yourself with information and guidance that will help to keep you as safe as possible when using online platforms.

✅ Looking after children can be particularly difficult challenging when isolating. Family lives have support available including online forums


Are you worried about a friend, family member or neighbour?

IDAS provides the following advice for friends, neighbours or family members concerned about someone they know:

  • Check-in with them regularly, if it is safe to do so
  • Ask if there is anything that you can look out for that might indicate they need help
  • Set up a safe word to indicate that help is needed
  • Call the Police if you hear or see anything that could indicate a potential risk
  • Look at the safety planning advice on the IDAS website

Access more information

More help and information can be found on the IDAS website, or you can call them on 03000 110 110 or use the Live Chat service 3pm-6pm Monday to Friday.

East Riding of Yorkshire Council is offering advice and support to parents who may feel their child is affected by bullying.

Bullying can have a negative impact on a young person’s work, health, self esteem and confidence. It can take many forms including physical, emotional and even text and internet bullying. Often parents and family members are the first to spot signs that their child is being bullied.

Bullying is usually defined as repeated behaviour which is intended to hurt someone either emotionally or physically, and is often aimed at certain people because of their race, religion, gender or sexual orientation or any other aspect such as appearance or disability.

What should parents look out for?

The type of behaviour that might be an indication of bullying includes:

– A reluctance to go to school

– Unexplained tummy upsets or headaches

– Showing signs of distress on a Sunday night or at the end of school holidays

– Becoming either quiet or withdrawn, or playing up

– Torn clothes and missing belongings

– Seeming upset after using their phone, tablets, computers etc.

– Wanting to leave for school much earlier than necessary or returning home late.

Bullying can have an impact on a child’s mental health so if your child is showing signs of serious distress – such as depression, anxiety and self harm always see a GP.

What can parents do to help?

Listen, be calm and provide reassurance that the situation can get better when action is taken.

– Listen and reassure your child that coming to you was the right thing to do

– Assure them that the bullying is not their fault and that they have family that will support them

– Don’t encourage retaliation to bullying – such as violent actions. Rather suggest they walk away and seek help

– Find out what your child wants to happen next. Help to identify the choices available to them

– Encourage your child to get involved in activities that build their confidence and esteem

– Discuss the situation with your child’s teacher or head teacher – or the lead adult wherever the bullying is taking place.

Bear in mind many children do not tell their parents because they are frightened that they will approach the school about the matter, make a fuss and make things worse, so it is a good idea to ask your child what they think could be done to stop the bullying.

Every child has the right to a safe environment in which to learn and play.

Lindsay Shelbourn, public health lead for mental health and suicide prevention, said: “Bullying can have devastating effects which can last into adulthood. Children who are bullied are at greater risk of developing mental health problems and in some cases it can lead to self-harm.

“As a parent or carer you may have concerns your child is being bullied. The most important thing you can do is to listen and provide reassurance. Take a look at the Anti-Bullying Alliance interactive anti-bullying tool for information on bullying.”

Bullying can happen anywhere; at school, travelling to and from school, in sporting teams, between neighbours or in the workplace. It’s not acceptable and if you feel affected by bullying you can visit www.anti-bullyingalliance.org.uk

*Special thanks to East Riding Council for this content*

For general information visit www.eastriding.gov.uk

 

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Are you an empty nester?

If you’re an empty nester – could it be your time to foster

Here at STAG Mumbler, we are always keen to hear your recommendations of great weekly classes and groups. If you have any suggestions, simply drop us an email telling us all about it at stag@mumbler.co.uk

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Fostering North Yorkshire

Fostering North YorkshireFostering North Yorkshire needs you!

We want to hear from people who could make a difference to the lives of children and young people across the county.

Fostering North Yorkshire is your local fostering service, and we’ve been supporting families across the county for over 35 years. We’re part of North Yorkshire County Council and our foster carers look after over 300 children a year. The foster carers come from a wide range of backgrounds and family make-up, but what they all have in common is their desire to provide a secure and welcoming home for some of the county’s most vulnerable children.

In return we offer the best training available and competitive financial packages with generous tax free allowances for each child or young person you foster. And we’re there whenever you need us, 24/7, 365 days a year.

Contact us at Fostering North Yorkshire

Email:fostering@northyorks.gov.uk

Web:www.northyorks.gov.uk/fostering

Facebook: facebook.com/FosteringNorthYorkshire/

Phone: 01609 534654

Fostering North Yorkshire – Making a difference that lasts a lifetime 

                                                   

 

 

Selby Library

Fortnightly on Thursdays 10.30am-12pm

Sherburn-in-Elmet

All Saints Church Hall, Fortnightly on Thursdays 1pm-2pm

Please visit the North Yorkshire West 0-19 Healthy Child Team Facebook page or App for the exact dates and more information on the service.

Health Visitor SPoC number 0300 303 0916

What type of childcare is right for us?

There are many different types of childcare setting, they all offer something slightly different, so it’s important to firstly decide what type of setting might work best for you.

Nursery

A nursery will usually take both young babies and children right up until the age of 5 or until they are due to start school. They will vary in size, and often offer all year round support, including early drop off times and later pick-up times. 

Pre-School

A pre-school will usually take children between the ages of 2 and 5, many are attached to a school. They are considered a good way of helping prepare a child for school. Opening hours tend to align to schools, so they may not offer early drop offs or later pick-ups and may not open during non term time.

Childminder

A childminder will be self-employed and look after babies, toddlers, and children from their own home. Many offer a little more flexibility and might also be able to help with older siblings by providing before and after-school childcare.

Nanny

Nanny’s can often offer the most flexibility, as well as caring for your child in your home, they might also be able to assist with babysitting, cooking, cleaning and other chores around the house. Some Nanny’s might even live in the home with you.

 

It’s normal for parents and carers to be looking for different things when it comes to finding the perfect setting, so write a list of things that are important to you and focus on these as a priority.

Cost can play a big part, calculate how much the setting will cost per month and how much salary we be left for other things. It’s important to research what Government Childcare Funding might be available to you too.

To ensure you cover everything, create a list of questions to take with you. We’ve added some below to help give you a few things to think about. If you forget to ask something, get back in touch with the setting, ensuring you have all the answers you need to make the right choice.

Things to look out for

We know there can be lots of fun messy play that goes on in every setting, and that’s great, but are the premises clean and does there appear to be good health and safety measures in place?

Does the setting having a nice outdoor space enabling the children to get some fresh air and explore the outdoors?

Do children look happy?

What’s the settings Ofsted rating ?

Have you discussed this new chapter as a family? Who will do pick up and drop off, who will pay, who will look after the children if it’s a setting that is term-time only?

It’s a great idea to do a trial run to the setting, considering what time you would need to leave to do drop off and get to work and what time would you need to leave work to get there for pickup.

Our best advice is to follow your instinct, when you know, you know, it’s a feeling you get when you walk in and as you walk out, you’re likely to get that “This is the one!” moment.

Our Top 25 Questions you may want to ask

  1. What hours of childcare do you offer?
  2. What is the cost? (Hourly/Daily/Weekly). Are there late pick-up fees?
  3. Is there a deposit to pay to reserve a place?
  4. Do you have places available now? If not, when might you?
  5. Can you offer last minute extra hours if needed?
  6. What training do staff members have?
  7. What hours do staff members work?
  8. What is the staff to child ratio?
  9. How many children are in the setting at any one time?
  10. Will my child have a key worker?
  11. Do you cater for SEN children?
  12. How will you help my child settle in?
  13. What types of activities will my child do throughout the day?
  14. Is outdoor play all year round or weather restricted?
  15. What type of meals and snacks are available? Can you support my child’s allergies and intolerances?
  16. What items such as nappies, milk, etc will I need to supply? What do you supply?
  17. How is quiet time supported? Will my child be able to nap?
  18. How will I know what my child has done throughout the day?
  19. Do you take the children on trips or outings?
  20. If my child is upset, how will they be comforted?
  21. How is diversity supported?
  22. What is staff turnover like? Which staff members have been here the longest?
  23. How is safety, security, and safeguarding managed?
  24. If I have concerns about anything, how can these be raised and how will they be responded to?
  25. Do you have references from other parents you can share?

Wherever you choose, we hope you’ll find a great setting. There are some wonderful ones around and if you do find a great one, we’d love to hear from you at stag@mumbler.co.uk. We’ll get them added to our website, ensuring other parents know about them too.

We know that letting go of your child and sending them off to a childcare provider can be a huge cause of anxiety for many parents, you’ve probably spent the last 6-12 months together and suddenly you might be preparing to go back to work, not seeing them as much, and be placing all the responsibility for their care with a complete stranger. Kathryn at STAG Mumbler is a trained Return to Work Mentor and Coach, if you’re struggling with this new stage in your life, you can always get in touch at stag@mumbler.co.uk for advice and support from someone who has been there.

 

Crombie Wilkinson logoMaking the decision to end your relationship and leave your partner can feel like a sense of relief for some but for many it also leaves you with a lot of questions about what you do next about separation, divorce, access to your children, what happens to any joint property and assets. 

When you have made the decision to end your marriage or civil partnership, this may have come as a shock to your partner and they may not be ready to discuss practicalities. It can be best for you to give them some space and time before you start to ask questions and expect them to have the answers. Communication is a key aspect of sorting out arrangements when you separate and so keeping open communication with your now ex partner can be a positive thing to do as once communication breaks down it can be hard to see and make decision rationally as both sides can then get entrenched in their side only. 

Some people can deal with separating ok, for others it will be an emotional roller coaster, where one day they can seem to be alright and coping with the decision but the next day they can be upset and not want to deal with things.  

If there are children involved, you both need to come to the agreement that your separation should not come between the children seeing both their parents during the transition, especially if one of you has moved out of the family home and want the children to visit you where you are then staying. Try to not argue or say negative comments about the other parent in front of the children, remember, they have not asked for this and have to deal with it and work through it just the same as the adults have to. You need to keep their routine the same as best you can to keep things stable for them, especially if they are school age and have hobbies/activities.  

When you are both ready, or if you as the person who has chosen to leave is ready to take the next step to progress formal separation, Family Mediation is a process you can enter in to where you can discuss matters and family disputes with the support of another person, a mediator to assist you in talking about your family and what’s best for them. The mediation process involves you attending a meeting or series of meetings with your former partner over several weeks. At each meeting, the family mediator will help you discuss whatever issues are at hand and take steps to defuse any conflict so you can come to conclusions and agreements together to benefit your family circumstances. You can discuss family mediation with our family mediator, Chris Myles at our York office. 

Once you have made the decision to divorce, it is advisable to speak to a divorce solicitor to get the advice you need for your personal circumstances. You may do this after you have spoken to your ex partner and both agreed that a divorce is the route you want to go down, alternatively, you may decide yourself it is what you want for you and issue divorce proceedings on your ex partner without informing them. There is a lot to consider when you are divorcing and getting the right advice, early in your decision is important for both sides and for the bigger picture of the wider family possibly affected by the separation. 

Anyone who has been married for over one year can start divorce proceedings, providing that one or other of the couple is either domiciled in England and Wales when the divorce proceedings have begun or has been resident in England and Wales throughout the period of one year ending with that date. It is irrelevant where the couple were married. 

We recommend reading our guide to the divorce process.   

For advice about your separation or divorce, contact Mark Robinson, divorce solicitor in Selby at Crombie Wilkinson Solicitors on 01757 708957. 

PPP aims to support parents who have children with additional needs.
We provide a voice for parents and are keen to ensure services are developed across Selby district to meet the needs of families in the area.
PPP has a steering group made up of parents and is supported by Selby
District AVS, Bee Able, Ryedale Special Families, North Yorkshire County
Council and Beech Tree Surgery.

We hold a weekly parent’s coffee morning every Friday from 10.30am – 12.30pm at Brayton Community Centre. This provides an opportunity to meet other parents, members of the PPP steering group and a range of different professionals. During school holidays, there is a free creche facility where children can take part in various fun activities, this is facilitated by Bee-Able staff.

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Peter Pan Nursery is a registered charity, pre-school nursery for children and families with additional needs based in Sherburn in Elmet.  We offer places to children who have disabilities, illness, behavioural issues, speech and language delays, social anxieties etc.  We also take children whose families require additional support and respite care due to illness, disability or mental health.  The list is not exhaustive and any additional need would be considered.  We have a team of highly qualified staff who are supported by a team of passionate, experienced volunteers, allowing us to offer amazing care.  We believe that every child should be given the same opportunities to achieve their full potential, no matter what their starting point or ability.  We offer a safe, stimulating environment with up to date equipment and fully inclusive outdoor play area.  Places are available for funded children and for non-funded at a cost of £15 per session.

For further information, please call kay or Emma on 01977 681863 or email office@peterpannursery.co.uk

We also have a charity shop on Finkle Hill in Sherburn in Elmet, all children’s clothing is 50p per item.  We also sell shoes, accessories, toys, books, electricals, bric-a-brac, kitchenware and equestrian items.  We have a Facebook group ‘Peter Pan Nursery (Selby District) & Charity Shop’ and a Facebook page for our charity shop ‘PeterPan Charity Shop’.

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SANDS

Sands is the stillbirth and neonatal death charity. Founded in 1978, Sands exists to reduce the number of babies dying and to ensure that anyone affected by the death of a baby receives the best possible care and support for as long as they need it wherever they are in the UK.

Sands works to reduce the number of babies dying and to better understand the causes of baby deaths. Sands works with governments and other organisations to drive change and raise awareness of the issues relating to baby loss.

Sands provides bereavement support services at both a local and national level. These include the Sands Freephone helpline, mobile app, online community, family support packs, memory boxes and over 100 regional support groups run by trained befrienders.

Sands works to improve bereavement care available to parents and families, by offering a range of training programmes and resources and working in partnership with health care professionals, trusts and health boards.

https://www.sands.org.uk/support-you

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Selby Hands of Hope

A local charity, by local people, for local people….

As a trusted charitable organization founded in 2009 by Wendy Singh, Selby Hands of Hope provide assistance to the people who need it the most in Selby and the district. If you need support, want to know more about the services available in the district or would just like to get involved and help your community please get in contact.

5 Gowthorpe, Selby YO8 4HE, UK

T: 01757 705855
E: admin@selbyhandsofhope.org.uk

 

52 Micklegate, Selby, United Kingdom
T: 01609 534521
E: selby.library@northyorks.gov.uk

Selby North Children and Family Hub is on the site of Selby Community Primary School, Flaxley Road, Selby. The hub is within walking distance of the town centre.

Parking at the hub is for staff only. There is on-street parking in local streets around the hub. The building is easily accessible to all, and is on one level with accessible toilets and baby change facilities available.

Selby North Children and Family Hub, Flaxley Road, Selby, North Yorkshire, YO8 4DL

Find out more

T: 01609 532343
E: C&FHubSelby@northyorks.gov.uk

Selby South Children and Family Hub is situated in the grounds of Barwic Parade School, Barwic Parade, Selby. On-street parking is available close by.

The hub is on one level and accessible toilets and baby change facilities are available.

Selby South Children and Family Hub, Barwic Parade, Selby, North Yorkshire, YO8 8DJ

Find out more

T: 01609 532343
E: C&FHubSelby@northyorks.gov.uk

Sherburn Children and Family Hub is a satellite site and is attached to the Sherburn library which is situated behind a parade of shops on Finkle Hill.

There is no parking available at the hub but there are parking spaces in the village. There is also short stay car parking in the Co-Op store for a maximum of two hours. Please ensure you take care in coming to and from both centres. Be aware of cars passing quickly and a build-up of incoming and outgoing traffic during school drop off and pick up times.

c/o Sherburn Library, Finkle Hill, Sherburn-in-Elmet, LS25 6EA

Find out more

T: 01609 532343
E: C&FHubSelby@northyorks.gov.uk

Spirit Of Christmas logo
Spirit of Christmas is a registered charity that runs 3 projects to help promote families and communities and alleviate poverty. Projects are Christmas parties; Christmas shop (toy bank) and Banana Box Toy Project.
Registered charity number: 1185011
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  • Our drop off points make it really easy to donate complete, good quality toys, games, puzzles, books and stationery items
  • We do want donations suitable from age 0+, however we give toys out to children up to age 11 (although on occasion we do get some older!).
  • We will find loving new homes for most of these through our 3 projects
  • Why not become a drop off point for our charity
If there is no drop off point near you then please message us

DROP OFF POINTS

Families in need

Whether you’re a family who would benefit from our donations (particularly younger families with newborn to 4 years old), or you’re supporting a family who would, please contact us directly.

Spirit Of Christmas poster offering free toys

Find out more about the changes, and the wide range of community focussed services, support and events available here 

The Manor Farm site is fully accessible with services being located at ground level. Parking is available to the rear of the building. All centres are easily accessible for all users. All the centres are on one level and accessible toilets and baby change facilities are available.

Manor Farm Estate, St Joseph’s Street, Tadcaster, LS24 9HA
T: 01937 830524

These organisations have made significant strides in advancing accessibility for all visitors to both establishments. They have instituted various measures to enhance the experience for individuals with diverse needs.

Sensory Bags: They are proud to offer sensory bags designed to cater to individuals with Autism. The bags contain essential items such as fidget toys and ear defenders, both tailored to assist those who may experience challenges related to sensory sensitivity and loud noises

Visual Stories: In an effort to make sure all visitors feel comfortable and prepared, they have designed a visual story. This allows individuals to familiarise themselves with the venue prior to their visit, particularly helpful for those who may experience anxiety or dementia.

Quiet Mornings: They understand that a serene and accommodating environment is crucial for certain individuals. To that end, they host “Quiet Mornings” during which, for one hour prior to regular opening, they turn off the music and brighten the lights to provide a peaceful atmosphere

Wheelchair Accessibility: The ground floor is fully wheelchair accessible ensuring everyone can enjoy their offerings without impediments; also offering a complimentary hot drink. Additionally, they extend a warm welcome to guide and assistance dogs at their locations.

Inclusive staff training: Staff undergo inclusive training, including “Welcoming All” teaching them the necessary skills to ensure every visitor feels valued and accommodated. They further receive “Dementia Friendly” training to better assist those with related needs.

The Potions Cauldron 

The Hole in Wand 

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The Toy Box Project

The Toy Box Project is a Selby based voluntary charity founded by Jacqui Crossley and Mandie Longfield in 2020.  
They collect pre-loved toys and games  through donations to re-gift to families in need.
They make up age related bespoke hampers depending on the families requirements and will deliver to their homes if they are  unable to collect. They will deliver across most parts of Yorkshire.
They also collect donations for those that can’t get to one of their drop off points in Selby.
The charity  operates throughout the year so please make contact via our Facebook page or use the details below if you or anyone you know would like a free toy box.
T : Jacqui Crossley on 07542 769342

 

Treasure Chest Breastfeeding Group aims to promote, support and encourage breastfeeding in the York area.

We run weekly support groups, a monthly antenatal workshop for pregnant women and a partner, and have a private Facebook group where you can chat to our trained peer supporters as well as meet other local breastfeeding families.

Our peer supporters are all volunteers who have breastfed their child for at least six months and have undergone training to enable them to support other families who wish to breastfeed. They have all had 20 hours of training which covers areas such as counselling and listening skills, how breastfeeding works and how to tackle breastfeeding problems.

Please see our website and/or Facebook page for up to date details of how and when to get support.

E: treasurechestyork@gmail.com
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Unique Friends

Unique Friends are a not for profit organisation that provide activities, support, and information to children and young adults with Special Educational Needs and Disabilities aged 0-25 and their families. We are based in Goole and welcome families who are local and from the surrounding areas of Yorkshire.

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Allergy UK

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Birth and Baby School

Kayleigh Burton offers parenting courses, active antenatal classes, baby classes and postnatal classes in the East Leeds and Selby area. Expectant and new parents come to my antenatal and baby classes from across the Leeds, York, Selby and Tadcaster area, including Garforth, Kippax, Sherburn, Hillam, Monk Fryston, Knottingley, South Milford, Hambleton and more.

Tel: 07743232656

Family Fund

‘Helping families raising disabled or seriously ill children across the UK.
We can help families raising disabled or seriously ill children and young people from birth to 17 years old. Young people who are 16 or 17 can apply fora grant themselves. We accept one application per household, every 12 months subject to eligibility and funding. Our website gives details on our eligibility criteria, how to apply and you can download an application form direct.

T: 01904 550055
www.familyfund.org.uk

Family Information Service (FIS)

‘The FIS is here to support YOU! We provide comprehensive, up to date information and advice on all services for children, young people and families in North Yorkshire. This could include information about childcare and childcare costs or support for your family. Our service is available for parents and carers of children 0-19 and for young people with additional needs up to the age of 25.

We can help you with –

  • Finding and paying for childcare
  • Parenting and family support
  • Money advice
  • Getting into work or training
  • Fun things to do
  • Working in Early Education and childcare
  • Health
  • Children Centres
  • Disabled children and young people
  • Support for families in distress

T: 01609 533 483
E: fis.information@northyorks.gov.uk

WEBSITE

Gluten Free Alchemist

Coeliac Parenting – Managing Child Care & Education
Child Care and Education : Managing Your Coeliac Child’s Dietary and Health Needs

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Home-Start Goole

Home-Start is a charity that supports families when they need that little bit of extra help. A family can request the support if they have a child under 8. The support can be for anything from financial worries, routines, relationship breakdowns, illness, multiple births, or just because being a parent can be really tough and tiring sometimes!

We have been well-established in Goole for over 26 years and in recent years we are really pleased to have started to cover areas in and around Selby.

We support families with home-visiting volunteers who offer support, friendship and practical help, and we are now recruiting for the next Volunteer Training Course which is running in May. We currently have a lot more families needing support than we have volunteers, if you could spare a few hours a week, you could really make a difference!

For more information about support or volunteering call 01405 769966, text 07534 369783 or email office@hsgoole.org.uk

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Howdenshire and Goole Area Special Families

Welcome to the Facebook community groups for families touched by special educational / health / disability needs. Our aim is to provide information sharing and also support you all.

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Making difficult conversations easy with PANTS 

nspcc logoMaking difficult conversations easy with PANTS 

As parents we want to do everything we can to help keep our children safe, but at the NSPCC we understand that starting conversations about child sexual abuse with children can seem quite daunting, and it can be difficult to know how to approach such difficult topics.  

The NSPCC has been using the PANTS rule for almost 10 years to help parents have these conversations, in a style that is very age appropriate. 

You know your child better than anyone, and you’ll know when they’re ready and how much detail to go into, but our friendly dinosaur, Pantosaurus, with his singing video and activity packs can help guide your conversations.  

The PANTS rule is really simple: 

Privates are private – your underwear covers up your private parts and no one should ask to see or touch them. Sometimes a doctor, nurse or family member might have to, but they should always explain why and ask you if it’s OK first. 

Always remember your body belongs to you – no one should ever make you do things that make you feel embarrassed or uncomfortable. If someone asks to see or tries to touch you underneath your underwear, say ‘no’ and tell someone you trust and like to speak to. 

No means no- and you always have the right to say no, even to a family member or someone you love.  

Talk about secrets that upset you. There are good and bad secrets – good secrets can be things like presents for other people or surprise parties. Bad secrets make you feel sad, worried or frightened. You should always tell an adult you trust about a bad secret straight away. 

Speak up, someone can help. If you ever feel sad, anxious or frightened, you should talk to an adult you trust.  

A family reading and drawing We also know that sometimes it can be difficult for children to talk to people they know about things that they are worried about, even their parents.  

You can let your child know the Childline number (0800 11 11) and website (childline.org.uk), so if they ever feel unsure they can speak to our counsellors for reassurance and support in the first instance.  

There is also lots of information on the Childline and NSPCC websites for advice and support for whatever is going on in your child’s life.  

 

Relationship Matters

Relationship Matters is a new partnership which offers information, tips and advice on how to overcome tensions, remain calm and where you can go to get further help.

www.relationshipmatters.org.uk is aimed at people in relationships where things are mostly respectful, equal and cooperative but they are experiencing difficulties.

Relationship Matters aims to help everyone recognise the signs where conflict may be having an impact on families and children

Are you arguing, rowing, or shouting about things like money, how you parent or housework?
Are you worried about splitting up?
Is there sulking, silent treatment, slamming doors or walking away from each other?
Are you anxious or worried, which is getting in the way of managing everyday life?
Are you not able to say sorry after an argument and move on?
Are you using hurtful texts, emails or social media against each other?

SENDIASS North Yorkshire

‘Working together with Parents and carers of children with SEND (0-16) and young people with SEND (16-25). Special Educational Needs and/or Disabilities Information, Advice and Support Service.

We are a small team located across North Yorkshire, all professionally qualified and with a significant level of SEND legal training for 0-25 years old. When contacting the SENDIASS advice line by telephone or email a Coordinator will assess and identify with you what is needed, then offer relevant SEND information, advice and support.

T:01609 536923
E: info@sendiassnorthyorks.org

WEBSITE

Solo Mums – York

This is a private closed group for independent professional mums, to come together to socialise, laugh and to support each other.

We organise nights out without our children, and meetups with children. Please only ask to join if you are : female, have a child/children, and independent, ie not with a partner.

FACEBOOK

The Lullaby Trust

Bereavement support
We offer confidential bereavement support to anyone affected by the sudden and unexpected death of a baby or young child.

Our bereavement support helpline

If you would like the opportunity to talk freely, for as long as required, with a sympathetic and understanding listener please call our bereavement support helpline on 0808 802 6868 or email support@lullabytrust.org.uk.
Calls to our helpline are free from all landlines and most mobile phone networks. The helpline is open 10am-5pm from Monday to Friday and 6pm-10pm on weekends and public holidays.

https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/bereavement-support/

The Wizard of York – SEN friendly tours

The Wizard of York loves welcoming autistic and other neurodiverse visitors on his award-winning tours, and has been working on a Social Story to help ease any concerns before attending.

The Wizard has consulted with autism charities and parents of autistic children to ensure it is as effective as possible in helping prepare children for this magical experience.

It can be downloaded at https://www.wizardwalkofyork.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Social-Story-Wizard-Walk-of-York.pdf (warning, contains minor spoilers!)
The download is also on the wizarding website at www.wizardwalkofyork.com too, under the Accessibility section of the FAQs.

The Wizard Walk of York is available to book for regular public tours, as well as private tours for schools, birthdays, Cubs, Beavers, Rainbows, Brownies and more. It’s the most magical ticket in town!

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